To be experienced as pleasurable by both partners, anal intercourse requires extensive foreplay and some preparation for many people. According to the gynaecologist Dr. Sheila de Liz, the step-by-step preparation with finger or butt-plug as well as sufficient lubricant plays an essential role for lustful anal intercourse.
A butt plug can relax the anal muscles before intercourse.
The important thing is that you use lubricant for everything and very, very much. You can use a finger to stretch the sphincter or a so-called butt plug, which you can buy in the sexshop. They are available in two sizes. Buy the little one when you first try anal sex. Give the sphincter two to five minutes to get used to the foreign body and stretch slowly. If you work with your fingers, you can then carefully insert a second one.
As foreplay before anal intercourse, the anus can be stimulated with the fingers or tongue. If the penetration of the penis by the passive partner is perceived as painful or accompanied by an unpleasant feeling, the use of a butt plug is possible beforehand. This is a conical object that can be worn by the passive partner before anal intercourse. The pre-stretching thus achieved can achieve or promote relaxation of the anus muscle. Its shape also prevents it from slipping in and out of the anus. Butt plugs can be worn for shorter or longer periods independently of sexual intercourse.
A butt plug can also be included in the foreplay.
Due to the lack of lubrication of the anus, the use of lubricant is recommended. When using a condom, a water- or silicone-based lubricant should be used, as greasy lubricants attack the condom material and are therefore unsuitable.